hello, imaginary twin
theabolds and laurie 1975

a wise person once said “write as if nobody is reading.” genuine and from the heart, i guess. me, i’m writing to my imaginary twin who is totally non-judgy, which is really important, because while i am a grammar snob (do i need a comma here?) i am no kind of punctuation snob. commas are optional when writing to my imaginary twin, and obviously, so are capital letters. s/he is ok with it. (see into the future ‘capitalization’ post which i’ll link to when I post it).

who am I? Laurie Enger Freehafer is who.  More here. http://laurpheus.com/about-the-blogger/ 

Worst decor trends ever


I feel good (better) about my early 2000s decor (which we still think is cool, but really is getting sad) after seeing this hilarious slideshow. Here’s a preview:

The most posh bedroom decor ever, and a total Man-Magnet!  (do note the negligee on the ottoman. This is actually an ADULT bedroom.)

This one’s like having the sun burning right in your room!

Plaid is a can’t miss attention-getter:

Every house has a staircase that could use attention:

Jazz up that tired open floor plan:

There are 67 ideas for you on these pages. You’re welcome.



I checked out Techlicious’ picks from the 2018 toy fair. I really like this one for me:

Crayola Crayon Melter

Crayola Crayon Melter

From Techlicious.com: What a win-win. Old crayon stubs are saved from the trash and kids get to master new artistic techniques with this practical pen-like plaything. Simply stuff your unwrapped crayon bits — or even brand new ones — into the top of the handheld, powered stylus. Seconds later (doesn’t take much heat to melt and it’s merely warm to the touch) you’re working a button-controlled liquid color dispenser that can draw a pretty straight line, produce a pixelated masterpiece or add extra textural layers of built-up design to paper or canvas, picture frames or other craft projects. Recommended for children 8 and (way) up. We’re thinking parents will likely sneak the “crowns” melter away to toy with themselves.
For ages 8+.

Available fall 2018, $24.99

I feel very creativity deprived, and I never act to reverse this. Maybe I need a $25 investment to get me to do something artistic.


game night fantasy

Many years ago I was an on-line party planner; sold party supplies on an early website (https://web.archive.org/web/20170915000000*/smashingparties.com — remember that it was in the late 90s and I actually used COMIC SANS as well as a whole bunch of animated gifs. A whole bunch). The site had party ideas; in fact, the FIRST Pokemon theme party ideas online. I should have won an award. Because of this site, I was contacted by a book packager (publisher). I ended up writing a party book for school-aged girls called Super Sleepovers and made a few bucks.

Flash forward to a life of many many parties. I have never been able to organize a scheduled party rotation. I’m talking about, say, every two weeks a different one of us hosts a party with a certain theme, and when we’re back to the beginning we move to a new theme. So yesterday I got all jazzed to have this imaginary run of parties based on https://www.buzzfeed.com/maitlandquitmeyer/games-you-need-to-order-for-your-friend-group-asap, “23 Games You Need To Order For Your Friend Group ASAP.” The idea would be for each host to buy one of these new games and have a game night. If the game was extremely fun, there would be more game nights between the next host’s new game. These games sound HILARIOUS just by their names: Social Sabotage, Suddenly Drunk (I do realize we are all zeroing in on retirement), Exploding Cats and Utter Nonsense – Naughty Edition) and more, and I know my laugh-loving mob would have a fantastic time. I know which of my friends would be into it off the bat, but others would balk. At first. Once we got the first game started they’d be hooked. So maybe we could start with just 2 host/game parties. Kim, what do you think?


Sri Lanka Stories – Security

sri lanka security

–Part 2 of a series of stories from my trip to Sri Lanka, 39 years after being an AFS exchange student. Read other parts HERE.

Fresh off the boat — aircraft, that is — Sri Lanka Customs tells it like it is. All visitors are greeted with this friendly warning:

extremely dire Sri Lanka security warning, No drugs.

don’t even think about it.

Since luggage searching sure seemed to be strictly voluntary, I suspect there are a few smugglers who sneak through.

At home base in Mt. Lavinia, all I can say is I hope we don’t have to escape this house for any urgent reason. The

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for posterity – 2006 AFS family re-connection

I don’t know how long Blogspot will be around, but in 2006 I wrote of a miraculous time when, after decades, I finally met up with my Sri Lankan Sister in NYC. The site isn’t hosting all of the images anymore, but as long as I keep this site going, I’ll remember how I felt in 2006. The whole thing is copied here so I never forget.

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1970s songs to walk/run by

ipod photo from Pixabay.com

walking tunes – oldies

I always have to sing in my head when walking or running, because:

  • my walking tunes (and all my music, in fact) are on my iPod (yup, as are my audiobooks. Old school, but huge capacity.) –headphones required.
  • I use the c25k app on my phone, and I’m simply lost without the encouragement and timing prompts it gives me–headphones also required.

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my theme song

Chills. I am a stupid little dreamer, and i couldn’t be more comfortable with it.


“Before you criticize someone, walk a mile in their shoes. That way, you’ll be a mile from them, and you’ll have their shoes.”

Jack Handey


bloody veggie burgers for carnivores

Bloody Veggie Burger

A while back — so far back that I didn’t even know how to capitalize the first word of sentences or the word I, I posted a recipe for a really tasty veggie burger that was even supposed to be enjoyed by carnivores. That was then; that was a recipe. This is SCIENCE, man:

Impossible Burger

I’ll have mine well done, thank you very much.

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anxiety dreams-nothing to wear

Anxiety Dream

Recurring themes

Last night this one again. Slight variations on the frequent theme of ‘nothing to wear.’anxiety dreams -- Pixabay.com

we’re going to a wedding.

we forgot to mail our rsvp until the day before.

they probably don’t know we’re coming.

i can’t find piece 2 of my 2-piece outfit.

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